Dealing with loss of a loved one is never easy. What makes dealing with a loss of loved one difficult? Our memories of them perhaps, a shock runs through when you realize that this person wont be there to talk to or welcome you when you visit. It is usually a sense of disbelief followed by sorrow and then an apathy towards life. That moment when you realize the inevitability of life, of our existence, of how we go on as if it never going to end. Life is like a stream it moves constantly and even death cannot stop this very existence. However, we want to stop it… hold on to the memories… freeze that moment in time, however hard we may try this is not possible. At some point we realize the futility of the effort and move on.

However that moment, when we feel apathy is so important in our lives, because death is a bell that makes us realize that all of this is going to end. We can use that moment and shape it to change the way we live. Ask yourselves how much helpful I have been to the world and the people in it? In the answer to that question lies the path of freedom. Realizing that your circle should be extended beyond me and mine into the world is your ah ah moment. Once you realize that and extend your circle of giving, you will have achieved the tools to deal with your loss.


There are moments in my life where I want to  get away from the world for sometime and be with myself. Those are difficult times because I know I cannot afford to do it, so there is a constant conflict. Knowledge comes in uncanny ways and one day I realized that this conflict is in my mind.

When we see a beach or quiet wilderness the mind goes there and it says to itself now that is where I want to be, quiet and peaceful. Only if??? Why is there a search for external crutches for inner peace? When the mind cannot find peace inside it looks for those crutches and hopes to find peace there. If you speak to someone who lives in Hawaii for example, they will tell you how stressed they are. While sometimes change in the external environment can make a difference (for a while) the peace has to be sought¬† from the inside. If you, who live in the “real” world with its maya (illusion) can still be peaceful inside, will have achieved true happiness. Knowledge that if the mind is at peace, everything else will appear peaceful will allow you to make peace with yourself and the world. If Po the Panda can find inner peace so can you!